You want these muscles to relax. If you force anything, the muscles will tighten instinctively, leading to discomfort or small tears (fissures).
Many find that lying on their side (Spoons) or on their stomach with a pillow under the hips allows for better control and depth management. 5. Essential Safety Tips
Safe for all toys and easy to clean, but it dries out and requires frequent reapplication.
A simple shower and washing the external area with mild soap is usually enough. Some prefer using a fleet enema for deeper internal cleaning, but this should be done sparingly to avoid irritating the lining.
Ensure you are in a space where you won't be interrupted. Stress is the enemy of muscle relaxation. 3. The Golden Rule: Lubrication You can never use too much lube. Period.
Take a warm bath or use a heating pad to relax the pelvic muscles.
Start by massaging the outside. Use plenty of lube.
Deep, diaphragmatic breathing (into your belly) naturally relaxes the sphincter. With a Partner